Human Needs

 Six Human Needs
My dear friend Anthony Robbins introduced the idea of The Six Human Needs. Having developed a life long interest in human behavior, development and motivation he studied many models of therapy including Neuro Linguistic Programming, Cognitive Therapy, Gestalt Therapy combined with Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Robbins combined elements from Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs with his own discoveries to determine what guides and motivates our decisions and actions.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs explores:

  • Physiological Needs
  • Safety Needs
  • Love and Belonging Needs
  • Esteem Needs
  • Self Actualization

Maslow’s pyramid of needs demonstrates how our needs change as we progress up the hierarchy.
On the bottom of the hierarchy we have the physiological needs for breathing, food, water, sex, sleep, excretion etc. As these needs are satisfied we move up the pyramid to satisfy safety needs such as security of the self, of the family, property, health and employment. Next is the need for love and belonging and how we connect with people through family, friendship and sexual relationship. We then seek out our esteem needs to boost self-esteem, confidence, achievement and respect from others. The top of the pyramid is the need for self-actualization where we desire self-improvement through creativity and helping to make the world a better place.
Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs focused on personal growth and contribution but Robbins felt it didn’t explain why we do what we do. He then developed the six core “Human Needs” that each of us works to satisfy on a mostly unconscious level.
The needs move in an ascending order ranging from personality, material levels to encompassing connectivity, interaction and our energetic influence in the world.
The focus for our prioritized need may be different depending on our various phases and areas of life. Each need serves as a fundamental part of creating a life that is whole and fulfilling at all levels.

The Six Human Needs are:
1. Certainty
Each of us has a need at a basic level to accomplish a primary sense of stability in the world. The need for certainty revolves around us doing what we need to feel safe, secure and in control ranging from paying our bills, having a roof over our heads to feeling comfortable with our relationships. We value predictability in order to avoid stress, anxiety and worry. As the world and the lives of those around us is constantly changing, satisfying this need can be challenging as we continue to control and resist change to stay in our comfort zone. We either find certainty by seeking it externally or by trying to control others or we can take responsibility to find more certainty within to gaining a greater level of self worth .The human need for certainty becomes more positive when we trust that everything is changing. Alternatively if we have too much certainty in our lives we may begin to feel bored and dissatisfied. We then seek out more variety.
2. Variety/Uncertainty
To allow ourselves to evolve we have a need for uncertainty to break the habits of predictability. Variety provides us with new interests, challenges, surprizes and adventure through making changes in our life in order to feel more alive. We take more risks letting go of needing to know the outcome. Variety and certainty sit on either side of a scale and are very much connected to each other. The scale needs to be in constant balance as too much uncertainty can lead to stress and overwhelm and then we seek certainty to regain comfort and more predictability. The cycle continues as we seek to find balance between running on automatic in our comfort zones to wanting to break up the monotony and desire more interest and change in our lives.
3. Significance
As we balance the polarities of certainty and variety we want to be seen and supported for who we are and what we do in the world. We all have a need to feel important, different and unique. We want to feel special in some way that makes us feel significant. Significance is the quality of being worthy and forms part of creating a sense of identity for how we show up in the world. We seek a sense of accomplishment through the goals we set, the skills we develop and the status we attain. In seeking out our need for significance we constantly compare ourselves and become dependent on the approval of others to feel good within ourselves. If we become dependent on the input from others to fulfill our need for significance it can be very challenging. Rather than relying on the approval of others to feel complete within ourselves we can fulfill the need for significance through connecting with our own path of integrity, having more compassion and giving more to others.
4. Love And Connection
To experience fulfillment in life we all have a need to love and be loved by others. We want to feel like we belong. In seeking our need for significance we feel we have to be different than everyone but this conflicts with the need for connection and love. We can temporarily feel satisfied with our achievements trying to stand out and be unique but we will feel disconnected.
Significance, love and connection need to be in constant balance as they sit on either side of the scale. By having too much significance we feel too different and look for change. We need to love others and connect with them by letting go of our uniqueness. If we take time to connect to our Self and love the aspects of our being this genuine connection infuses out into the world to others.
The first four Human Needs are centered on our individual quest for self-fulfillment and achievement. They are more fundamental personality needs that are in a constant strive for balance. The last two needs provide doorways that help and support each other to achieve a greater level of fulfillment in life.
5. Growth
The need for growth isn’t a fundamental need or a need that all people strive to fulfil. We may feel comfortable and have some level of uncertainty, we might feel significant and meet our need for connection but without growth there will be a sense of dissatisfaction or stagnation because we are not evolving. Growth can take place in a number of ways but importantly it is about self-reflection and being both aware and responsible for our actions and choices.
6. Contribution
The positive fulfilment of the other five needs sees the rise of the need for contribution. Contribution means living our life’s purpose and bringing something to the world to benefit others or giving value for something greater than ourselves. Our need for contribution comes from a desire to have our lives mean something by being of service to the world. This need might be fulfilled through a business, volunteering or taking time to smile or help someone in need. Contribution is not just about what we do but also about who we are being in the world.
Growth and contribution support each other as when we contribute to others we have the opportunity to grow. By growing we increase our capacity to give and make a difference in the world. By fulfilling our need for growth we understand that it is a journey and it means allowing ourselves to become more authentic and to share what we learn with others. True meaning in life is experienced through contributing beyond ourselves.
The Six Human Needs help us to understand the needs we endeavour to fulfil each day. As we recognize the choices we make and the incentive for our behaviors we can move towards experiencing a life of meaning and purpose.
Review The Six Human Needs in Your Life by:

  • Becoming more aware of your thought patterns, behaviors, actions and decisions.
  • How do you currently satisfy your basic needs?
  • Do you focus more on one or two human needs?
  • Do you feel that one of the Human Needs requires more focus or attention?
  • How do you currently prioritize your needs and are they in alignment with the way you choose to live your life?

By regularly reviewing the Six Human Needs you can use them to guide and motivate you to focus on creating more balance and moving towards a more fulfilling life.
You need to look at how what you want fits into your targets human needs.
If you fill 3 of the four basic needs they will follow you or your advice as it helps them fit their model of the world.

Higher Self Exercise

Accessing Higher Wisdom Technique By Catherine Warner – 2012
I got the idea for this after watching the escalator technique on the video. I put my students in a light trance state with a drum.
I had them close their eyes (they were laying on the floor in various positions) feel completely relaxed, warm, supported, etc.
Now I want you to imagine that you are floating upwards, up out of the house. You can see the roof of the house and the tops of the trees around us. Up higher and you can feel a light mist on your face and it feels nice. Your body is so relaxed and comfortable, and your mind is out here in the sky, you might hear some night birds, and you keep rising higher and higher.
As you continue to rise you notice there are stars around you and it’s very beautiful. You feel awed by this closet relationship to the heavens. And as you look around at the bright stars, you feel a powerful energy moving through you, it is like the whole universe is surrounding you with love and wisdom. As you take a deep breath, you realize that all the answers you could ever need are right here in this beautiful starlight, and you can access this energy any time you are confused or in doubt.
Take a moment to breathe deeply and fill yourself with this new and wonderful energy. Now lets bring this energy down into your body, and know that you now have all the answers you are looking for. Down now, you see the tops of the trees ad feel a fine cool mist on your face. Down through the roof, and feel your body. Feel your feet, and your hands, and when you’re ready open your eyes.

External Influences on Our Subconscious Mind    

External Influences on Our Subconscious Mind

Well, it is again one of those times we talk about mind control other than hypnotic language. This time around, we revisit the burning and fiercely debated issue of the subconscious mind. The effect of mind control has been intensely examined and here, new research indicates that our subconscious mind makes our decision for us.

In same way we have extensively looked at the mind control mechanism, as proclaimed by Dr. William Horton, in his online blogs and articles at Live Free Program ; as well as in his book, The Alcohol and Addiction Solution, And the new,  Secret Psuchology of Persuasion we have set out to understand how our subconscious mind takes charge and makes our decisions for us.

We first of all, we look at a study published in Neuroscience by Soon et al. (2008) which showed that our brain is “subconsciously aware of our decisions”  even before we even get the chance to make our very own decisions. The study examined the possibility of a potential external control on our decision making process and in turn, analyzed various ways we could know what actually holds true. It aimed to make us understand that in most situations, we’ve already arrived at a decision or answer, even before we know it; and that the most exciting aspect of this, is how unimaginable this would be, if actually, they were true. Think of this as a process where external influences act as a throttle on the pedal of your subconscious mind giving it signals on which direction to take. I guess you should understand better now.

The most exciting thing about these experiments is that there is emerging trend which lends more voice to the earlier thought notion that external triggers can affect the subconscious mind.  Scientifically, complementary studies have been conducted and findings by researchers have shown our gut intuition works in similar way. Voss and Paller (2009) found evidence that suggests the brain “accesses intuition (our gut feeling about something) by tapping into memories/information embedded within our brains at a more subconscious level, rather than at a conscious level”.

This emerging research also points to the notion that the environment is a critical factor that plays a crucial role in shaping our thoughts, decisions, and actions. As will be shown in the subsequent case studies, it has never been realized how incredibly these revelations are and how profound this can begin to shape our new thinking – the environment being a key factor.

Now, let’s take a deeper look at the details of these studies that support our hypothesis. In the by Soon et al., a total of 36 participants were recruited and asked to make a decision about whether they would use their left hand or their right hand to press a lever. Using fMRI scans, the researchers analyzed the brain’s activity in the frontopolar cortex, and knew the participants’ decisions even before they had taken them.  That is, before the participants had taken the decision to use their left or their right hand, the scientists already knew the decision they were about to take.

They reported that this information “was available up to seven seconds before the participant had made a conscious decision”.  The researchers used the information from the scans, to predict with success, all the 36 participant’s decisions before they had consciously made them! Incredible!

In another study conducted at Yale, students were asked to participate and compete in an investment game while sitting alone in a room with either a backpack or a briefcase. At the end of the experiment, the results showed that students in the room with a briefcase were “significantly more greedy and aggressive than those sharing it with a backpack”.

An article published in New York Times stated that this emerging research reveals that the human brain and mind is “active”, though subconscious,” purposeful and independent”. It reiterated that “goals, whether to eat, mate or devour an iced latte, are like neural software programs that can only be run one at a time, and the unconscious is perfectly capable of running the program it chooses”; and that “the mere presence of the briefcase, noticed but not consciously registered, generated business-related associations and expectations”. The authors further stated that this caused the brain to “to run the most appropriate goal program: compete”.

The authors went ahead to note several case studies, one of which, a laboratory assistant had deceptively asked participants to hold a cup of coffee on their way to the laboratory. Without being aware that it was a trap, half of the participants held iced coffee and the other half held coffee that was” piping hot”.

Subsequently, they were asked to read a story and make comments about a fictional character’s personality in the story they had read. The participants that had held the cold beverage for the lab assistant were more likely to assess and rate the fictional character’s personality as “cold, less social and selfish”; while the opposite was the case for participants who had held the hot cup of coffee. That was it! It was all they needed to pass subjective judgment and opinion on a strange fictional character they had read about.

Yet another experiment conducted in 2005, participants were recruited and “exposed to the smell of a citrus cleaning fluid while filling out a questionnaire”. Subsequently, and while still under experimentation, they were duly rewarded for their time by being given crumbly biscuits. They thereafter ate and cleaned up the crumbs from the table. The participants who had earlier been exposed to the citrus smell cleaned “three times as many crumbs from the table as those who had not”.

And yet again, an extensive two year study conducted in 2007 at the University of Minnesota showed that ceiling heights affected individual performance. It found that higher ceilings “stimulated more creative thought patterns”, while lower ceilings encouraged attention and focus. And in another study conducted at Dartmouth College, it was found that showing the name of a lover “increased cognitive performance results on subsequent tasks”.

What these experiments (ceiling heights, lover’s name) suggest is that external stimuli can affect cognitive performance. Whether it’s a briefcase, a cup of coffee, or the height of the ceiling, these external stimuli can have a great effect on our subconscious and decision making process.

NLP Technique

Quick Self Image Boost
By Jenner Linden
1. Get in a comfortable position.  Close your eyes and take a deep breath and let it go with a sigh. Breathe in all the way to your toes, beyond your chest, beyond your knees and letting go of any anticipation or agenda any anxiety or nervousness if it’s there.
2.  Imagine you are looking at yourself in a mirror. What do you see that you don’t like? What does it feel like to have those thoughts about your self?
3. Now set that image aside.
4. Now look in the mirror and see yourself in your most beautiful state.  (snap fingers) How you want to see yourself.  Your skin is glowing and you are radiant   Heads turn when they see you coming.  You can’t help but smile every time you see yourself in the mirror.   You are beautiful.
5. Open your eyes and close your eyes.
6. Now bring up that negative image of your self again and in a moment I am going to have you smash the mirror and all of your negative thoughts about your self will fall to the ground and disappear.  They will no longer be present.
7. Bring that negative image of yourself in the mirror, make a fist and smash the mirror.
8. Watch the negative images fall to the ground and disappearing all around you and as you look up you notice the mirror is whole again (snap fingers) with the beautiful radiant image of you is there.
9. It feels so good to look in the mirror and see your beautiful self, smiling back at you.  Nothing can stop you.  You are bold, beautiful and brave!
10. Got back to #2 and do this sequence 2 more times.
11. Take a deep breath and open your eyes.